What Gives Them the Right?

I turned 21 almost a year ago, so I have had my fair share of nights at a bar. I prefer to go to the bars close to campus because a majority of my friends hang out there. Last weekend however, my friends and I decided to venture out to the bars on Main Street to see if we could find a new crowd to hang out with.

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Our first stop is a bar that has a pretty good mixture of college students and also graduated college students who still hang out in Oshkosh. I was hoping that since the majority of the men there were older that they would be more respectful and mature I suppose...well I was wrong. One of my friends got hit on almost immediately by a man who was about 25 years old and he seemed like a nice guy until he started to ask her about what kind of things she liked to do in bed. I walked away and decided to head to the bar to grab a drink and I had not been standing there for more than two minutes when some drunk man walks up to me and decides that the best way to introduce himself to me is by grabbing my ass.

I really did not appreciate this, so I walked away and my friends and I decided to head to a different bar, hoping to not run into any more disgusting men like the ones we had encountered already. Once again I was wrong...we went to Mabel's which I consider to be a more low key bar where you can just sit, have a drink, and actually have a conversation because it's not too loud.

A man came up to the bar and sat down right next to me, introduced himself, and offered to buy me a drink. We had been talking for almost a half hour and he seemed normal and actually nice. Next thing you know, he pulls out his phone and shows me very graphic pictures that he had taken of a female friend of his at a strip club. I didn't know how to respond to this, so I told my friends that we were leaving.

After what seemed like the longest night ever, we went home and just vented to each other about how ridiculous the men we find in bars are. My question is, what gives them the right to act and talk like that to women and actually expect something from us? Why do men think that it is acceptable to grab women's body parts and have them find arousing? All I could think about after that night was...really?